Our Aging Elders and Our Family Responsibility ……

today people are not what they claim to be …I have seen first hand that many people today only think about themselves and what they can get from anyone let alone their family members..In today’s world it has become so messed up with family and people who are out to get something from anyone they can especially a family member .People live way beyond their means and expect their dying family or friends to pay for their needs . In today society people are more worried about money and What will be left for them ,Then the person who needs the care .People are so quick to judge anyone as long as it makes them feel better about themselves… The fact that they did not do a thing for the person who is dying or has died but for the simple fact that they were family meant that they were entiled to everything . Well let’s start with our aging family members who require care to live at home but because many of people work or just don’t wan to do the care that is need to keep them at home .So people look for assisted living or nursing homes ..Which are  Not what people think !   I have seen some of the best and some of the worst assisted living and nursing homes In the state of Rhode Island ..Most of these homes here Can’t keep the staff that is needed to take care of their patients, Becaus ehey Don’t Pay enough and most people who do the work of a CNA don’t have it in their heart to do the level of care that is needed  ..I have found that many states including Rhode lsand have trouble keeping CNA’S,RN’S,AND LPN’S  Becasuse these places and agencies don’t pay what these people doing these jobs are worth ..So There is a very high need of these job types especially cna’s because ,They are the ones who do the actual care and tend to patients daily needs as washing them getting them dresses and fed and up and about ,but are paid the least in the medical profession.Which  is why they are in  such need .So before you think about putting your parent or grandparent in a home find out about homecare .You give your family member the decency, digity and love of keeping them in their home ( or yours) ..Where they will be cared for and loved. Now we as human beings need to make our Families  be more responsibile for the care of our elderly parents ,grandparents and other family members…. We also need to make Our Politicians be accountable , by making medicare pay  ( which medicare is paying way to much for some services and nothing for other services that are needed )for their care and actually watching these agencies like elderly affairs or the department of health  look into putting the money back into our systems so they can be taken care of properly.. Medicre pays out way to much for the stupidest things instead of giving the money to the family member who is doing the care and allowing our family members to die at home with the love and care of a family member and let’s face it No One is going to care for your family better than you the family….  (we also need to make families accountable for our aging and  other family members who Can Not care for themselves and can’t live on their own . I think it is a dam shame that a person goes through life has children , and grandchildren, and raised their children  but is put into a nursing home because no one wants to care for them ..People should take care of  their familiy ( Usually because a family member doesn’t want to do the care but thinks they are entitled to money when the family member dies which is a dam shame )or the family member is worried about the family assests, So they give them away before they are put into these homes .Because our parents and grandparents have taken care of us ,Our whole life now it is Our turn to care for them .I know first hand I have done  it and it is our responsibilty to care for our own family members… I do it on a daily basis.. I still take care of my brother in-law and have done so for more than 12 years now and he is still at home with us ..Now I want to say that each state should have a program to help the family keep they familiy members at home and with someone who will take care of them and it would cut medicare and medicaid costs by millions . Do you realize what these places are being paid to care for a person ?  Well I can tell you these  places are paid  thousands of dollars on a monthly basis  to care for them and if they live at home they get nothing …Maybe instead of cutting the medicare and medicaid budgets the politicans should make drastic changes in medicare and medicaid Plans …Start By helping familiy members who want to take care of their famiy members and pay the family a small amount to do so … It may just surprise the government that more people would step up and do the right hting and take care of their aging family member(s)  and it could cut the medicare and medicaid budgets alot..Maybe Our Politicians should stop the same old same old and start to show alittle compassion and decency and let people who want to care for their own Be able to do so ….Many people today can’t afford to stop working even at an older age becasue the cost of iving has gone up , food, gas, mediations, clothing and other exspensives have gone up with vey little increase of cost of living,…So they are forced to put their family members in homes when Many would love to care for the family member themselves but can’t afford to do so ..People are working longer then the days of old when a person could and would retire at the age of 60-62 years old…But today people are forced to work unitl 80 -and longer ..Just to keep their way of life that they have worked so they can continue the way of life they have for decades and only want to  continue to do so. The government who set up social security and medicare didn’t stop to think about the world of inflation an or the fact the the next generation of the people ,Their children would grow at a vast rate …

So Please before you think about putting  any of Your Family members into a nursing home or assisted living Please , Please think of How you will feel if you were put into one of these places and taken out of your home..The Only home  you knew for decades …Really think about it ….Most people today In many families , Don’t think it is their responsibility to care for their family But it is …

 

 

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